in deep thoughts...

in·fat·u·a·tion [in fàchoo áysh’n], a great, often temporary, and irrational passion for somebody or something. Well this is one of things that’s bothering my mind right now. Not the first time, as my friend would say that I’m someone who infatuate easily. The weird thing is that I have a tendency to find peculiar target of infatuation. What I mean by peculiar here is especially in terms of skin complexion haha…I mean race and religion. Maybe that’s why they define it as ‘irrational’ after all.

What do you think about relationship between people of different race or worse, religion as well? Someone popped me that question before, and what’s in my mind then was that this is a very complex issue you couldn’t simply answer it’s possible or it’s impossible. In this tiny island of Singapore inter-racial marriage is getting more and more prevalent. Gosh, I sound like writing a GP essay now. Anyway, since this friend of mine popped me this question I was kind of drawn to find out more about this phenomenon.

Love, a word too often used, or rather misused. If ‘love’ is so great that it would be able to conquer everything than I guess there won’t be so many divorces these days. If two people who loved –or thought they love- each other and have so much in common in terms of race, religion and their basic principles of life could get divorced, then what are the chances left for people who don’t even come from the same racial and cultural background.

I’m a Catholic and I’m a foolish believer in true love. True love or the perfect love would be God’s love for me, for all of us; and I guess with all the human weaknesses we could take our whole life to learn about loving someone else truly. The journey of finding true love does not end in a marriage, in fact it is the beginning of that journey of loving someone so unconditionally until death do them part. For me, being a Catholic, marriage is a sacred union of two individuals, an manifestation of God’s love itself; so divorce?? out of the question.

Therefore, I do believe that love is indeed great, and yes, ideally it would be able to conquer all things, not to mention race or even religion. So when a couple decides to part, I guess they were mistaken about love, because true love is forever. But then, knock2x, always called back to reality aren’t we? Helloooo, we’re living in a demonic, crazy, secular world where fighting for love is really really hard. That’s why normally -in fact it is our very natural tendency- people would choose someone who come from the same background, same race, same religion so that it is easier for things to work out. From Catholic point of view, a marriage would be ideal and sacred, a sacrament we called it, if only the two individuals are Catholics, so they would build a loving family in Christ.

That brings me to the next question, is it possible that God match you with someone who is not of the same faith as you, non-Christian. Is soulmate even pre-destined? or does God let us to choose freely? *to be cont’d*